Have you ever had this happen to you?
You think of this really great idea for your business. Seriously, it’s brilliant. You can’t wait to write it down and get started.
Then something happens . . .
- You have an incredible urge for a huge bowl of ice cream or a bag of potato chips so you run to the store and buy some.
- You decide now is the time to pick a fight with your spouse. Or kids. Or mother.
- You suddenly slap your head and realize you forgot to pay an important bill that’s due to tomorrow.
- The junk drawer in your kitchen needs to be organized. STAT!
I could go on but you get the idea.
The thing is these ideas are divinely sent. Don’t worry about how or why. Or maybe you do know. These shots of inspiration could have been the idea that sent your business to the top. Or maybe it would have covered a large bill due. Or it maybe it could have sent your business in whole new direction that fulfills your purpose.
I call this dreadful act stuffing down business greatness. It’s one way we procrastinate on moving forward in our businesses. For some reason your mind says to you “I’m not ready yet so here is something more important that needs to be done.”
Excuses are the enemy to personal and business greatness.
But don’t you worry. Ideas are endless. In the meantime, work on what you need to work on within yourself. When that next inspirational idea hits you’ll be ready this time.
Destiny: The predetermined, usually inevitable or irresistible course of events.
Do you believe in it?
I was all set to write about destiny last night when I decided to watch the Adjustment Bureau. Not believing in coincidences I put off writing this post until after I watched it.
I’m so glad I did.
If you haven’t seen it yet I won’t spoil the plot. I highly recommend watching it. It’s a unique way of looking at destiny versus free will, a common debate in the spiritual world.
The premise of the movie is two characters falling in love and a “bureau” that wants to keep them apart.
If you’ve seen the movie I want to point out that in real life we all are a part of this bureau. We play a role in everyone’s lives in some way or another. Our lives help redirect others to where they are supposed to go. There are even some people who make a living nudging people onto their right path. Yes, I’m one of them.
Since a lot of my intuitive coaching work is based on destinies and life paths I thought it would be fun to learn what you think about destiny.
- Have you seen the movie?
- Do you believe in destiny?
- If so, where does free will come to play?
- Do you have a story where destiny seemed to be at hand in your life?
- Do you believe things happen for a reason?
- Do you believe in life lessons?
I remember when I was younger I tried many different activities. I tried things like track, soccer, volleyball, acting and more. Some of them I stuck with but a lot of them I quit. I would try something, decide if I liked it and then quit soon after I started.
Unfortunately this labeled me as a quitter. It was a label that took me a long time to shake off. It was only recently that I really understood my behavior.
Maybe you can relate to my story.
I’m not afraid to try new things. I love to experience life and if I try something and don’t feel passionate about it or feel I can’t excel at it I don’t want to waste my time or other people’s time doing it.
I wasn’t quitting, I was learning about what I was passionate about.
How would I know what that was if I didn’t try?
The problem with quitting comes when we stop trying. How many times have you stopped yourself from doing something you thought was interesting? An important life lesson is that if you haven’t found what you love and desire you haven’t tried enough.
My focus on this blog is on business but this viewpoint applies to all parts of life.
- Finding the right mate.
- Finding your dream home.
- Finding your dream career.
A part of knowing what you love is learning what you don’t love. Note the word find. It’s an active word. Things don’t just fall out of the sky. The universe doesn’t plop what you want in front of you. You need to go find it and do the work to get it.
So now I see quitting a little differently. I say don’t be afraid to try and ignore the naysayers who think you should stick with something or worse, someone you don’t like. Keep looking. Repeat after me: Quitting is when you stop trying.
Life is too short for that nonsense.
We’ve all experienced some sort of tragedy or personal pain. It’s a part of the human experience.
The problem becomes when we embrace being a victim of these pains and they start influencing our life and/or our businesses.
I recently started thinking about the word victim and it’s common usage so I looked it up the definition.
According to Dictionary.com the word victim means the following:
- A person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency.
- A person who is deceived or cheated as by his or her own emotions, or ignorance by the dishonesty of others or by some impersonal agency.
Notice that the definitions don’t specify the length of time a person is a victim. If something bad happens to you beyond your control how long you grieve for the violation is up to you.
But, I suggest that you stop thinking of yourself as a victim as soon as possible.
Here’s why . . . Our thoughts are powerful and what we align ourselves with is what we attract. It’s difficult to start and run a business from the place of being a victim which is a negative energy. When you approach your life and business from a place of being a victim you invite more situations that will confirm your belief as being one.
You must let go of calling yourself a victim or even a survivor if you want the pain of your past to be over. Relabel yourself as victorious. Be sure to keep the lessons learned and the character–building strengths you gained and leave the rest of the story behind. Even better, use that story to further brand your message. Get the help you need to move past whatever has happened to you. Find a coach. Journal. Talk it over with a good friend or relative. Then vow to let it go and view it as one of the most valuable lessons you ever learned about yourself.
Viewing your life objectively is an important life skill. You can change your life’s path by changing how you see your stories and how you label yourself.
No one seems to be immune from having something happen to them beyond their control. The ones who prosper and grow from the experience view what they went through as valuable and see an opportunity to make something better. It could be teaching about the lessons learned, starting an organization to help prevent others from becoming a victim, or using it as a life mission to fuel business success.
To further learn how your past past pain relates to your business career see my blog post Why Your Personal Pain is On Purpose.